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Be still, and know that I am God. — Psalm 46:10

There is something about the end of October that makes the calendar seem to move a little faster. Thanksgiving is just around the corner, and Christmas is not far behind. Before we know it, our days will be filled with shopping, decorating, cooking, entertaining, and trying to meet everyone's expectations.

Every year we promise ourselves that this holiday season will be different. We will start earlier, spend less, worry less, and somehow find more time to enjoy it all. Yet, by the middle of December, many of us are wondering where the joy went.

Perhaps the secret isn't doing everything earlier. Perhaps it's deciding what doesn't need to be done at all.

Now, while the holidays are still several weeks away, might be the perfect time to take a good look at our traditions. Which ones truly bring happiness, and which ones have become obligations? Are we preparing that elaborate meal because everyone loves it, or simply because we've always done it that way? Could we simplify the menu, ask everyone to bring a dish, or even enjoy a meal somewhere other than our own dining room?

The same goes for gift giving. Establishing a reasonable budget now can eliminate much of the financial pressure later. Perhaps the adults could exchange names, give something homemade, or agree that time spent together is gift enough. Children may remember the excitement of opening presents, but years later, it's often the traditions and laughter they recall.

And what about our calendars? Before every weekend becomes filled with commitments, let's reserve some time for ourselves. An afternoon without plans, a quiet walk, or an evening at home should be just as important as another invitation. We don't have to say yes to everything simply because we've been asked.

Living near the coast, I am reminded that even the ocean has its quieter moments. Between the crashing waves and changing tides, there is a rhythm that never seems hurried. Perhaps we could borrow a little of that wisdom.

Most importantly, let's remember why we celebrate. Thanksgiving is about gratitude, not the number of dishes on the table. Christmas is about the birth of Christ, not the number of packages beneath the tree.

This year, before the holiday rush begins, let's make a few decisions that will leave room for what matters most. Simplify a tradition, share a responsibility, set a budget, and leave some empty spaces on the calendar.

After all, the best holiday memories are rarely the ones we worked the hardest to create. They are the moments when we had enough time to enjoy them.

A Note from Betsy:

My 2027 Reflections by the Sea and Fine Art calendars are available at Downtown Books in Manteo, NC, or online at www.betsyoreglass.com